The normal college late night scene is not helping me find the woman of my dreams. Whenever I call home my mother bothers me about grandchildren. I told her I have no prospects and nowhere to look. Valentine’s Day is approaching and I just want someone to buy gifts for. Please help.
Dear Lonely Hooper,
First and foremost, Valentine’s Day is simply a day observed to celebrate love and affection for anybody in your life, not just a significant other. Use Valentine’s Day as a time to appreciate how much love you share in your life. The void of a significant other is actually filled by many other important people all around you!
All of these reasons to celebrate Valentine’s Day are of course just supplement to the fact that your athletic instrument of a body does not need to intake the empty calories generated by Valentine’s Day.
To end my rant, lets talk about your search for the right significant other. You mention that the normal late night scene isn’t helping you find the woman of your dreams. To follow up this claim, I have a few questions. Do you think that you put your most impressive, valuable and unique self out there when you indulge in the late night scene? Are you really able to see the true colors and individual personality of prospects when standing across a loud, noisy, sweaty environment forced to make small talk? Are your dance moves good enough to gain attention, or are you gaining attention on the dance floor for less desirable reason? I hope that these questions have you pondering if you have perhaps been looking for love in all the wrong places.
I challenge you to put your dancing shoes aside, shelf the cologne for a night, and while in your favorite everyday, comfortable issue-gear, sitting in class gaining all the tools to push you towards a successful and prosperous life, look to your right and your left, in front of you and behind you, and see what you have been blinded from for months, possibly years! Start conversation about things that actually interest you in a classroom setting, where conversation is more open and real. Study dates and group projects are a great opportunity for you to put your cute and helpful side to the forefront. A man with drive and intellect impresses women! If the first steps go well, this will be the perfect road to success in the love department.
On this February 14th, call your mother and tell her that you are saving your money on this Valentine’s Day to be able to spoil all of those grandchildren that are now somewhere in sight!
Good luck Lonely Hooper. Put it all out there, and welcome to the world of love.
Shauna Pugliese is a Junior on the Notre Dame Women’s Lacrosse team. Submit your “Dear Shauna” questions to NDeyes01@gmail.com OR tweet to @NDIrishEyes #DearShauna.